Week 83 - Sitting in the Power

We all want stuff like things, attention, love, health, long lives. To be adored, to be counted. Any relationship between two people is about bumping up against each other. And the hardest wanting moments are when we want something from another person that they are not able to give us.

The solution is to identify what it is I am wanting and to give it to myself. So that I am at peace within myself, so that what I get from my relationships is icing on the cake. I stopped relying on others for me to be okay. I began trusting myself and having my own back. I am complete. People can feel it when we are at peace with ourselves. They can also feel it when we want something from them.

I find small ways to create a win-win situation so that I give myself what I want and need. When I am lonely and want a friend to call me, I reach out. When I’m angry or hungry, I make myself a cup of tea. I buy myself flowers. I do an activity I enjoy. My spiritual practice is to live in acceptance of everything and everyone around me, including myself. It’s not always easy. We each have our challenges and we all do our best to take care of our needs and wants. Sometimes we are in situations where we feel helpless and hopeless. It’s especially in those times when it’s important to find small ways to be in joy. To find little moments of success in our own self-care. And if it’s not possible, then to turn to a higher power and ask for help.

For a list of nonviolent needs and wants, go to

https://www.unitychapelhill.org/images/content/feelings-needs-cnvc.pdf

Poem by Rupi Kaur, The Sun and Her Flowers

The universe took its time on you

crafted you to offer the world

something different from everyone else

when you doubt

how you were created

you doubt an energy greater than us both.