Week 35 - Sitting in the Power

Connecting the Dots

There is an adage I've learned – “Don’t connect the dots” that helps remind me when I start over thinking, lacing together negative events, I view life with a doom and gloom attitude. If I do not connect the dots, I deal with what’s in front of me and move on.

Matt Kahn excerpt: “The usefulness of overthinking is that it tends to be an alarm clock.  It’s a sign that our heart is closed instead of opened.  Our questions are uncertain, as we try to understand why circumstances happen.  We have been trained to wage an internal war against uncertainty. We have to find clarity to know what the plan is to step into the plan.”

“So if the mind can’t relax, we go to the body.  Just like when the body is balled up in fear, we go to our mind. We always work with the opposite.  When we take time to love our hearts, to be grateful for what we have and we take time to appreciate ourselves and give ourselves the compliments and encouragement we’re waiting for other people to give us, we open up our hearts once again”

It is my goal now that I am over 70, to live more in the moment. I am a survivor. I tend to be a worrier.  I have a history of being a planner and plotter for every task, figuring out what to do if any scenario happens.

Time has helped me hold a wider perspective so I am able to witness this tendency to overthink. I need to breathe, look at all the angles of a problem, make the best decision I can and move forward. I am doing the best I can in any given moment.  I choose not to loop back and relive and rehash my decision. I live in my heart and use my mind.

Am I one hundred percent effective all the time? Absolutely not. What I am is aware of my choice to loop back and rehash, which does not serve my highest good, or tame my mind to look to the heart.

We are survivors. We are problem solvers. We are plotters and planners negotiating our way through life. Horrible things happen. Amazing miracles emerge. We can use our emotions to open our hearts and we can use our minds to our highest and best good.